Cover According to Gia G Kon of The Inner Lynk Therapy and Wellness Centre, “happiness is better understood as a sense of overall wellbeing that includes emotional resilience, fulfilment and balance”
According to Gia G Kon of The Inner Lynk Therapy and Wellness Centre, “happiness is better understood as a sense of overall wellbeing that includes emotional resilience, fulfilment and balance”
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In celebration of the International Day of Happiness on March 20, Tatler speaks with Gia G Kon, founder of The Inner Lynk Therapy and Wellness Centre, about the journey to true joy
“I don’t know how to stop Anxiety. Maybe we can’t. Maybe this is what happens when you grow up. You feel less joy.” This poignant line from Inside Out 2 (2024) struck a chord with audiences, encapsulating the film’s central message: all emotions—however uncomfortable—are intrinsic to the human experience, each one important. Yet, in a world that moves at a relentless pace, where digital interactions often replace physical ones and the pressure to succeed is ever-mounting, the pursuit of genuine happiness feels more elusive than ever. What, then, does it truly take to cultivate joy?
To unravel the psychology behind happiness, Gia G Kon, founder of The Inner Lynk Therapy and Wellness Centre and a licensed mental health counsellor weighs in. “Happiness is one of our core emotions, often linked to joy and contentment,” Kon says. “However, it is not a constant state of pleasure or excitement. Instead, happiness is better understood as a sense of overall wellbeing that includes emotional resilience, fulfilment and the ability to navigate life’s highs and lows with a sense of balance.”
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In modern society, many chase happiness as if it were a destination—believing that achieving certain milestones in relationships, careers, or personal goals will guarantee lasting joy. However, according to Kon, this perspective is flawed. “In reality, happiness is an ongoing process that comes from meaningful connections, self-acceptance and a sense of purpose.” She encourages individuals to create a life that aligns with their values and brings them a deeper sense of fulfilment.
Social media is deeply embedded into daily lives, although studies suggest that it may contribute to decreased happiness. “Social media is a tool that can either support or harm our wellbeing, depending on how we use it,” Kon notes. “On one hand, it fosters connections, allows us to share experiences and provides access to valuable resources.
Above Gia G Kon, founder of The Inner Lynk Therapy and Wellness Centre and a licensed mental health counsellor (Photo: Gia Kon)
Gia G Kon, founder of The Inner Lynk Therapy and Wellness Centre and a licensed mental health counsellor (Photo: Gia Kon)
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On the other hand, excessive use can lead to unrealistic comparisons, overstimulation and decreased self-esteem.” By showcasing curated versions of people’s lives, social media can create pressure to measure up, leading to feelings of inadequacy. However, Kon suggests that when used mindfully—such as engaging in meaningful conversations, limiting screen time and following accounts that inspire rather than drain—it can serve as a powerful tool for self-expression and connection. “The key is intentionality and balance,” Kon says.
Despite unprecedented digital connectivity, loneliness remains a pervasive global issue. Kon attributes this to profound societal shifts, including the dominance of digital communication, mounting work pressures and the decline of communal spaces—such as neighbourhood gatherings and local events—all of which exacerbate social isolation.
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“The fast-paced nature of modern life often leaves little time for nurturing deep connections,” she says. “We must be more intentional about fostering meaningful relationships in a world that encourages constant busyness.”
Body image and self-esteem also play a significant role in happiness, with many people believing their joy is contingent on meeting societal beauty or fitness standards. Kon debunks his notion, emphasising the importance of self-acceptance.
Above The fast-paced nature of modern life often leaves little time for nurturing deep connections
The fast-paced nature of modern life often leaves little time for nurturing deep connections
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“Self-acceptance is the foundation of true joy,” she says. “When people shift their focus from how their body looks to what it does for them, they often experience greater appreciation and peace.” She recommends practising self-compassion, challenging unrealistic beauty standards and nurturing the body with care rather than criticism. True contentment, she argues, comes from embracing oneself—flaws and all.
One of the most common misconceptions about happiness, Kon explains, is the belief that it is a destination rather than a journey. “This mindset often leads to constant chasing rather than appreciating the present,” she says. “Many people think happiness means feeling good all the time, but in reality, life includes a full spectrum of emotions. Expecting to be happy 24/7 is unrealistic. True wellbeing comes from accepting and processing emotions rather than avoiding discomfort.”
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Another myth is that external circumstances alone determine happiness. While Kon acknowledges that financial stability and positive life circumstances contribute to wellbeing, she emphasises that happiness is largely influenced by mindset, habits and the ability to find meaning in everyday experiences. For those struggling to find happiness, Kon offers practical advice rooted in self-love and gratitude.
“It may sound cliché, but learning to appreciate oneself and being thankful for both the good and challenging moments can shift one’s perspective,” Kon says. “Happiness isn’t something that appears overnight—it’s built through small, intentional actions,” she adds. “Taking time for self-care, engaging in activities that bring joy and surrounding oneself with supportive people can make a big difference.”
Above Kon says, “When people feel seen and supported, they are more likely to cultivate meaningful relationships and experience a greater sense of belonging”
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Above “This mindset [of chasing happiness] often leads to constant chasing rather than appreciating the present,” Kon says
Kon says, “When people feel seen and supported, they are more likely to cultivate meaningful relationships and experience a greater sense of belonging”
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She also encourages individuals to seek help when needed, whether through therapy, support groups or talking to a trusted friend. “Feeling disconnected is common, but with time and effort, meaningful connections can be rebuilt.”
Building deep and meaningful relationships requires intention. Kon highlights several key habits that foster genuine connections: practising active listening by being fully present in conversations without distractions, embracing vulnerability to be seen and heard without fear of judgment, and showing consistency by investing time and effort in relationships regularly.
Expressing gratitude strengthens bonds by letting others know they are appreciated while setting healthy boundaries ensures relationships are built on mutual respect and understanding. By integrating these habits into daily life, connections naturally deepen, becoming more fulfilling and resilient.
Above Social media can either support or harm our wellbeing…The key is intentionality and balance
Social media can either support or harm our wellbeing…The key is intentionality and balance
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Asked what communities can do to support individual and collective wellbeing, Kon shares that it continues to be important to establish spaces where people feel safe, heard and valued. “I would encourage more open conversations about mental health, reduce the stigma surrounding therapy and make mental health resources more accessible,” she says. “When people feel seen and supported, they are more likely to cultivate meaningful relationships and experience a greater sense of belonging.”
Despite the challenges of modern life, Kon remains optimistic about the future of mental health and happiness. She highlights a growing awareness around mental wellbeing, with more universities in Malaysia offering proper education and licensing standards for mental health professionals.
“I’ve seen a significant increase in individuals seeking support after the pandemic,” she says. “More people are prioritising self-care, breaking generational cycles and advocating for mental wellness.” While challenges remain, Kon strongly believes the shift toward emotional intelligence, normalisation of therapy and community support will lead to a brighter future for the nation’s mental health and happiness.
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