Anastasia Williams in residence at The Upper House, Hong Kong (Photo: courtesy of The Upper House)
Cover Anastasia Williams in residence at The Upper House, Hong Kong (Photo: courtesy of The Upper House)

During her residency at The Upper House, we caught up with Anastasia Williams to talk about how to regulate the nervous system, being in tune with our breath, and how to move past the feeling of ‘not being enough’

Holistic healing is something that has been ever-present in Anastasia Williams’ life. When she would feel unwell as a child, Williams' aunt made her tinctures using herbs she grew in the garden. At 18, Williams did a Reiki course and, at 19, she began practicing yoga

“From there, [I developed] a passion for self-understanding and empowerment, healing and living from a nourished and inspired place within ourselves,” says Williams. “Life is a rich and beautiful tapestry of experiences, let us be open to it and to our personal and innate magnificence.”

But even the most disciplined wellness experts and enthusiasts are not immune to life’s challenges. Several years ago, Williams woke up to an excruciating ice-cold sensation shooting through her back, which made it difficult—if not impossible—to move. She saw a doctor, who told her all the lab tests had come back normal. Returning to the holistic route, Williams eventually discovered that the issue lay in her nervous system—which was burnt out, overstimulated and had simply had enough. 

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She devoted time not just to healing herself, but also learning about how the body holds stress and trauma, and how to regulate the nervous system to facilitate deep healing. This led her to become a practitioner of Harmonyum healing, a gentle hands-on technique designed to recalibrate the nervous system. She has since held workshops and programmes around the world, including in New York, Bali, Sydney and Hong Kong, where she’s currently in residence at The Upper House leading yoga sessions, breathing workshops, talks on topics that range from intention setting to releasing fear, as well as one-on-one Harmonyum healing sessions. 

Having had an eventful few years that often left me stuck in freeze mode, I decided to see Williams to experience Harmonyum Healing. After some deep breathing exercises, within seconds of Williams moving her hands over my back I fell into a semi-conscious state of deep relaxation, which felt like a trance-like savasana. After “waking up” an hour later, the only words I could muster were “I don’t know where I just went” and immediately noticed that my breath was effortlessly strong and steady. My mind was clear and—for the first time in a long time—quiet. 

It's certainly not a one-time fix-all, but it was a meaningful reset and an important reminder of the power we hold in our minds and bodies. 

To understand more, Tatler spoke with Williams about the power of breath, simple ways to regulate the nervous system and signs of burnout to look out for. 

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Above Anastasia Williams leads a yoga session at The Upper House, Hong Kong (Photo: courtesy of The Upper House)

There’s been a lot of talk about “regulating” one’s nervous system. Why is it important to steady our nervous system? 
Your nervous system is your body’s command centre. All your operating systems and landscapes are taking their cues from here. This is the foundation for how we understand and experience the world, both the inner world within and outer world reality. It guides our everyday activities such as waking up; automatic activities such as breathing; and complex processes such as thinking, reading, remembering and feeling emotions. We are experiencing ourselves, others and the world though our nervous system.

Tending to your nervous system is your number one priority to meet the demands of our modern times, for longevity, daily vitality and strong immunity. A well-nourished nervous system maximises your total wellness, creativity and connection with yourself, others and life. Your nervous system is the holding space for the fortitude and harmony of and between your physical, mental, emotional and energetic states.

What are some everyday practices that people can do to reduce stress and maintain a healthy nervous system?
The five basics are [to] breathe slower and through your nose for the most part; move your body; meditate; get quality sleep; and spend time in nature, away from the modern amount of stimulation.

Our breathing is a direct line to our nervous system. It’s right there for us to access at any given point of our day. You want to start to slow the breath down. With a shift in pace and pattern, our breath can shift our nervous system into a more regulated, nourished and spacious state. To make it easier, you can inhale for a count of five and exhale for a count of five. If you are able to make the breath even longer—perfect. Do that.

It seems the way we breathe is super-important. What power does our breathing hold?
Because all you’re operating systems and landscapes are taking their lead from your breath, your breath is like the conductor of the orchestra. The more connected we become with where our breath is, how it’s operating, what belief it’s moving, what messages it’s sending, we will be able to pivot from chaos to coherence within the space of several breaths.

You’ve mentioned in your talks previously that when it comes to trauma or stress, “the body keeps the score”. Can you elaborate on this? 
We all go through a multitude of experiences in our life. All of the operating systems of our whole being: physical, mental, emotional and energetic, hold the memory of these experiences. If we are not using practices to clear and re-orientate, transmute and transform those memories into a healing state, then they tend to pop up in other areas or moments of our life in [ways that don’t serve us].

When we go through stressful times and challenging experiences, there is an innate part of us that goes into survival mode and will not process everything as they happen. Thus we all need to find ways, practices or modalities that support us to process, clear and heal the perspective of how that memory is sitting in all landscapes and how we relate to and live with it.

Another way to see it is, the landscapes of your whole being need their software updated to the version that is going to suit the life you want to be living now, as well as the future self and life you want to be living ahead of you. If we are operating on past narratives that are rooted in past challenging experiences, these might not be in alignment with the new you and the new life you are trying to create and experience.

You are building your life from past unprocessed conditions. Everything is essentially habitualised once it’s repeating itself by design or by default. It’s our responsibility to go in and design what our inner worlds are holding as their belief systems and narratives.

What are some warning signs of burnout that people should look out for? 
Some people experience burnout throughout their whole being and some people will experience it in just their body, mind or emotions. These are some common signs for us to observe and then start to take stock:

  • Experiencing a repeated feeling of being overwhelmed mentally, emotionally or physically
  • Repeated brain fog and inability to focus and concentrate
  • Problems with sleeping or needing excessive sleep
  • More emotional than usual, leaning towards irritability, frustration, sadness, anger or apathy and complacency
  • Turning to things consistently, such as alcohol or other substances, consuming yourself in TV, loads of negative self-talk or gossiping to offset stress, cope or numb out as you do not know how to process or face yourself or the stress. You feel paralysed and the feeling of numbing out feels like freedom.
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Above Anastasia Williams practices Harmonyum Healing, which is designed to recalibrate and regulate the nervous system (Photo: courtesy of The Upper House)

In a city like Hong Kong that’s fast-paced and competitive, people tend to be hard on themselves. How can we move past this to achieve better health? 
It starts with acknowledgement and acceptance that you’re even doing this and the negative impact that it has over time. It doesn’t make you faster or more competent. It chips away at your self-esteem, your integrity, your nervous system and your magnetic field energy. Your overall sense of self.

From there, return to compassion. Often, negative self-talk comes from a way to control our feelings in relation to what is occurring. Instead of trying to gain control of your feelings, feel your feelings. It will give them less power. You feel to heal. Some of them will process and release. From there, you choose to observe the underlying fear, that underlying feeling of “not being enough” in that situation. We are living in a world where it is projected that we all need to be the master of everything, which sets up unrealistic expectations in our consciousness.

Once you have allowed the tenderness of acceptance and compassion to move through, then you can go to the questions I ask myself. “Is this narrative fact or fiction (a story I have made up over time to stay in control)?”  You will start to realise that you have a whole bunch of fictional narratives running through you that you’ve normalised. Then you ask yourself, “What will be the most empowering thing I could do for myself right now?”

The answer is going to look different every time. Sometimes that will look like changing the narrative you’re running through your heart and your mind. For example, turn “I am not enough” into “I am competent and present with everything that is needed from me in this moment.” You say this quietly to yourself several times, or out loud if the situation allows, and once you start to feel it move through your sensory system your energy will change, your attention will shift, your perspective will renew, and you can return to the moment and its needs.

Nothing is ever really one and done. We must apply practices like this consistently until the new belief or narrative takes roots, moves through us and becomes the new default. Ultimately, we must choose internally to own and embrace our potential. We should not let anyone else define this. We will all get knocked down, it’s in the getting up and realigning with one’s inherent worth, value and magnificence that carves a new path forward.

What are some notable changes you’ve seen in your clients after working with them? 
Wow, the changes I have seen in my clients and students are vast. From healing trauma that holds one back from living a life they desire, following their hearts to build businesses they are aligned with, seeing people take the consistent steps to have more well-rounded approach and practices in their lives that align with them, to supporting people to transition from one career to the next, move locations and rebuild their lives to releasing fear, anxiety and overthinking moving from survival into thriving. 

Overall, the most notable change that is a consistent thread in all my clients is a sense of self-empowerment. Having the tools, practices and knowledge to re-pattern their narratives, to reach more connected and embodied understanding of themselves, to meeting whatever challenges they are moving through with more awareness, grace and heart, to step back in the driver seat of their wellness and life on every level.

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