Cover They say guys are hard to read; two love experts say otherwise. Here are the subtle signs you’ll see when a man is into you (Photo: Getty Images)
They say guys are hard to read; two love experts say otherwise. Here are the subtle signs you’ll see when a man is into you (Photo: Getty Images)
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They say guys are hard to read; two love experts say otherwise. Here are the subtle signs you’ll see when a man is into you
How would you know a man likes you? In this article, Tatler speaks with Bumble APAC communications lead Meihui Chen and certified matchmaking and dating coach Vanessa “Vee” Antonio, who share their insights on the topic.
Many women assume that communication is all about words. However, the ‘7-38-55’ rule explains otherwise. This concept breaks down how emotions are communicated: seven per cent through spoken words, 38 per cent through tone of voice and 55 per cent through body language.
For Chen and Antonio, there are subtle signs you will spot if a man is beginning to show interest. Chen warns, however, that establishing clear and consistent communication with your potential partner is essential.
“It’s true when they say communication is key, and it’s important to open ourselves up emotionally and authentically to avoid sabotaging our relationship.”
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Above What are the subtle signs that men will show when they're starting to like you? Two love experts answer our question (Photo: Getty Images)
What are the subtle signs that men will show when they're starting to like you? Two love experts answer our question (Photo: Getty Images)
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On the other hand, Antonio advises men that women interpret a consistent effort in conversation as a sign of genuine courtship. “If a man’s communication is low-effort—minimal responses, delayed replies, zero-depth—her subconscious reads it as a preview of the relationship. And no woman wants to commit to a relationship that feels like she’s talking to a brick wall.”
She further explains that subtle signs often don’t make an impact, as women prefer someone direct and transparent about their intentions. A straightforward approach shows confidence and reliability, key qualities women look for in a partner.
“A man who disappears for days and then suddenly sends ‘WYD’ [what are you doing?] does not reignite interest—he reminds her why she lost it in the first place.”
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Above Two love experts give the subtle signs men will show a woman he's interested (Photo: Getty Images)
Two love experts give the subtle signs men will show a woman he's interested (Photo: Getty Images)
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According to Chen, the top three things men look for in a woman are:
- Positivity and good manners (67 per cent): Men appreciate women who maintain a positive attitude and exhibit good manners, as these traits reflect kindness, respect and emotional maturity in everyday interactions.
- Shared values and interests (62 per cent): Having shared values or interests creates a strong connection, allowing for deeper conversations and a sense of alignment in the relationship, which fosters long-term compatibility.
- Good communication skills (61 per cent): Effective communication is key in any relationship. Men value women who can express themselves clearly, listen attentively, and engage in open, honest conversations.
*Data gathered from Bumble Asia’s Dating Trends 2023 and 2024
Above Here is subtle sign a man likes you: he remembers the small things (Photo: Getty Images)
Here is subtle sign a man likes you: he remembers the small things (Photo: Getty Images)
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Antonio, for her part, says these are the qualities women look for in a man:
- He invests. Time, energy, effort, money. If a man truly likes a woman, he won’t hesitate to show up, plan and engage.
- He remembers details. Not just big moments—small, insignificant ones. Genuine attraction is attention.
- He integrates her into his world. A man who sees a future won’t separate her from his life.
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Jove holds a degree in Journalism and is currently pursuing graduate studies in Philosophy at the University of the Philippines–Diliman. She has flair for in-depth, interview-driven stories that explore politics and culture, shaped by her background in national broadsheets.
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