Even though I am a certified life and happiness coach, it doesn’t mean that I was always able to see the glass as half full when it comes to my own life. Growing up, I had low self-esteem, was constantly worried about the opinions of others, and felt the world was always a little against me.
I didn’t appreciate all that I had, and I would ruminate over the negative, then get stuck in bad memories or experiences. Only through practising gratitude, kindness and self-care over the years, did my understanding and appreciation of the good things in my life begin.
Learning to do so in the midst of tough times isn’t easy, but you’ll find that it is achievable when we start being kinder to ourselves, and accept our own shortcomings and even failures.
With the world still in the midst of a long battle with the Covid-19 pandemic, I think it is important for us to learn how to face the tough moments, untangle them, learn from them, move on and see the light ahead.
A personal life experience
One of the earliest memories I have of feeling like I hit rock bottom was when I was diagnosed with severe endometriosis when I was 24. I remember having surgery and lying in bed at Mount Elizabeth Hospital, with my then boyfriend (now husband) by my side.
The doctor came in and grimly explained that, because of the gynaecological complications I had, it would be quite unlikely I would be able to conceive a child naturally.
I couldn’t comprehend what that meant. I assumed that after surgery, I would come out bright and shiny. I remember glancing at my (then) boyfriend and immediately feeling shame and guilt—that there was something so unnaturally wrong with me.
I recall a family member telling me not to disclose this “dirty little secret” to anyone. What would others think of me? How could I not pop out babies effortlessly like other women can? What was wrong with me?