The topic of diving eventually came about, as was natural, where the matter of what would have been different had she not chosen this path was asked. “I think I would have been just a normal girl, doing ordinary routines like going to school, getting married early,” she replied with a laugh. “It probably would have been a simpler life. My cousins, who are younger than me are happily married with children. I’m grateful for the life I’ve led, and it is because of diving that I managed to move from a small town to KL.”
Having chosen this sport, she is ever appreciative of the support she has received from the government and her coaches, who have mentored her and looked after her as she chased her dream, despite having her whole life change since being selected.
“I never thought I was normal actually, because diving has been my entire life. Sometimes I don’t know how to be normal. I am not ‘normal’ like everybody else, and my ‘normal’ is very different from anybody else’s.”
We can imagine, with her life so heavily built around diving, being away from home to train for world-class sports championships, family time isn’t something that she would have the choice to embrace. “I am quite distant from my two little sisters because I have been living apart from them,” said Pandelela, a little sadly.
“I also know that my parents don’t fully realise the situation with my career, but it’s understandable. I sometimes cannot express how I truly feel with them; I do feel that my friends understand me more than my family.”
She then referenced one of her previous Instagram posts on National Siblings Day, where she captioned “Trying to understand my siblings is harder than winning the Olympics.” We all laughed, of course, but a sad reality hung heavy in the air, before the question of whether she ever felt alone in the world, or not, came about.
“Yes, of course I feel lonely,” she said, and paused for a moment, “One time I was scrolling down my Facebook feed and came across an article about depression and anxiety. I read about the symptoms and thought that I had both!” She laughed at her own paranoia, and then explained further, “But I know that you cannot trust everything you read on the Internet, plus I have a psychologist I can talk to, if I ever feel the need to.”
It’s bad enough dealing with the pressure to perform at diving, but there is also constant pressure from social media—where some keyboard warriors persistently try to hurt her in any way they can. Even appearing in media and being involved in photo shoots was a point of criticism by the haters. One of them mentioned on Facebook, “Oh, you’re not a model, stop trying to be one,” another, “Oh, stop putting on makeup, you should concentrate on diving and not dressing up.”
“Maybe they forget that I’m a girl. People always watch me anyway, and are curious about what I do, so I guess I just have to be extra careful. For me, it’s OK. I try not to let it affect me. Of course I will be upset for awhile, but I get over it. Usually I share about it with my friends and teammates and we end up laughing it off.”