Let’s talk about sex, baby—because when it comes to pleasure, there is no one size fits all, and this sex coach wants you to own your unique enjoyment by understanding the multifaceted aspects of sex
Sara Tang thinks it’s high time we talk openly about sex—in all its complexity and diversity. Tackling the still-taboo subject head on, the sex coach, educator and podcast host says, “I firmly believe that transforming one’s sex life has a profound impact on every aspect of a person’s life.”
“When women feel confident, liberated and unapologetic about their sexuality, they radiate a newfound energy and vibrancy that transform their presence in the world. [But] in Hong Kong, sex education is not mandatory in schools and families often avoid discussing sex due to its taboo nature. As a result, traditional social narratives persist that perpetuate a culture of shame surrounding sexuality.”
She speaks from personal experience. Having grown up in a religious and conservative Asian family, Tang recalls developing a “pattern of people-pleasing behaviour and a significant amount of sexual shame”.
“It took years of inner work, trial and error, and painful mistakes before I began to turn things around and cultivate a healthier relationship with my sexuality,” she says. “Throughout my journey, I longed for a guide, a role model or a reliable resource to provide guidance.”
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Because she couldn’t find the guidance she needed, she decided to become a source of guidance for other women. On top of hosting an award-winning podcast, Better in Bed—where she provides insights on the matter, the sexologist has recently launched an online masterclass with a local sexual wellness brand Nancy.
“I was drawn to partner with sexual wellness brand Nancy because I saw a perfect alignment between their vision and my own aspirations for creating a sex-positive world, breaking through taboos and shame, and normalising conversations around sex, particularly in the context of Asia,” she says. “What excited me even more was when we discussed the untapped market potential for sex education in Asia. We recognised that there was a significant need for comprehensive and inclusive sex education in this region. We felt a deep calling to fill this gap and create something meaningful.”
Named Own Your O - The Shame-Free Guide to Self-Pleasure, the masterclass is designed to challenge common societal norms surrounding female sexuality, leading participants on a transformative journey of self-discovery and empowerment. She gave Tatler an exclusive access to the classes, and explained some of the takeaways from the course curriculum.