In Conversation: Victoria Wisniewski Otero and Lisa Lam
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Lisa Lam, co-chair and general counsel for Gay Games, and Victoria Wisniewski Otero, founder of diversity-focused non-profit Resolve, discuss diversity in Hong Kong and what we can all do to drive inclusivity in the city

When Lisa Lam left Hong Kong to study in Canada, it was an opportunity to find herself.

“I realised there are many minorities in this world in different contexts. Growing up in Hong Kong as a Chinese person, I was pretty normal, pretty mainstream, even though I didn’t have the words or visibility about my sexual orientation. In Canada, I became a visible minority because of the colour of my skin, but then being queer was quite okay.”

While there, Lam started a youth group for LGBTQ+ people, and while she experienced some overt negative discrimination—including an arson attack on the group’s office—being thrown together with people from different backgrounds made her realise that “we are more common than different”, and she developed an interest in creating “a space where everyone could be themselves regardless of background or identity”.

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Victoria Wisniewski Otero, founder of Resolve (Photo: courtesy of Victoria Wisniewski Otero)
Above Victoria Wisniewski Otero, founder of Resolve (Photo: courtesy of Victoria Wisniewski Otero)

Lam went on to a two-decade corporate career in law where she was less directly involved in diversity and inclusion. When she left that work in 2017, she returned to inclusion work, taking on a role at the volunteer-run Gay Games in 2018, where she again aims to create a safe space for people from different backgrounds.

When Victoria Wisniewski Otero moved to Hong Kong ten years ago, she worked with refugees before founding Resolve, because she wanted to help people tell their own story rather than speaking on their behalf, and to do so across different communities, from domestic workers to LGBTQ+ people to the disability community.

“To change mindsets to be more tolerant and inclusive, you need visibility of people from those minority groups who can be ambassadors,” says Wisniewski Otero. “But that doesn’t come from nowhere. They need support; they need allyship; they need funding; they need a platform and they need skills development and resources.”

Resolve offers that, particularly through its signature fellowship programme that empowers emerging leaders from different communities to become changemakers.

In Hong Kong, change appears to be afoot. “Hong Kong is part of a global trend. There’s definitely a lot of momentum in the last couple of years to focus more on diversity, equity and inclusion. Companies can no longer afford to not have that be a central pillar of their strategy,” says Wisniewski Otero. Public attitudes are changing too. She points to a survey released in May revealing that the majority of Hongkongers—60 per cent—are now in favour of gay marriage. Ten years ago, it was 38 per cent.

“Diversity and inclusion can be part of Hong Kong’s comeback. And they should be a core part of its talent, attraction and retention story. It’s about making Hong Kong a place where everyone feels they belong,” says Wisniewski Otero, though she highlights that there are still systemic gaps including protection against discrimination due to sexual orientation or age. “There are things we need to do to make this city inclusive for everybody and a place where everyone can thrive, but I’m encouraged by the public attitude change.”

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Lawyer Lisa Lam, co-chair and general counsel for the Gay Games (Photo: courtesy of the Gay Games)
Above Lawyer Lisa Lam, co-chair and general counsel for the Gay Games in Hong Kong (Photo: courtesy of the Gay Games Hong Kong)

“I’m quite hopeful, too, particularly [in terms of ] the younger generation and the corporates. They have been at the forefront helping to push a lot of the changes in the LGBTQ+ field in particular,” says Lam, who has received corporate support for the Gay Games through sponsorship, participation and volunteering. 

The Gay Games, which after a number of pandemic-related delays is now set to take place in November, also has the potential to play a role in Hong Kong’s comeback and to drive greater inclusion in the city. The latter was originally why Lam wanted to get involved.

“I read a longitudinal 30-year study on the impact of the Gay Games on the society of the host city, which found that the mere fact of reporting that the Gay Games took place in the city has a notable positive impact on public attitudes towards the LGBTQ+ community. I was encouraged by that because I’m more interested in going beyond the LGBTQ+ community, so you’re not just singing the same song to the same group of people.”

“There are two things I want to achieve. One is, of course, for the LGBTQ+ community to have that sense of belonging, that it’s okay for them to be them, that this space is safe, and you can celebrate. “But more important is the visibility part—to have people from society say that it doesn’t matter whether I’m gay or straight or whatever, we can all come and play some sport then go for a beer or a meal and watch some performances. I think it is true that you can build bridges and break down stigmas and stereotypes.”

It is not just organisations who can drive change. “We want every person in Hong Kong to feel they can take everyday action, big or small, to make our city more inclusive,” says Wisniewski Otero. In 2019, Resolve carried out a large-scale study and found that while over 80 per cent of Hongkongers care about social justice, only 39 per cent felt they had any ability to personally take action to advance it.

In 2021, Resolve launched an Equality Toolkit, a free resource outlining how to be an effective ally and an active bystander if you witness harassment or discrimination. It highlights the spaces individuals have access to where privilege grants the power to make a difference.

“One of the most effective ways is to become a monthly donor to causes that drive inclusion,” adds Wisniewski Otero. “It’s such a rewarding way to show your allyship through real concrete action. Coming from behind the scenes, it allows an initiative to be able to plan strategically because they can count on your support. And, you don’t have to wait until you’ve made it to give back—you can start small, you can start local in your community and you can start now.”

This story is part of our Front & Female In Conversation column, which appears monthly in the Tatler print magazine and is a series of discussions between women who are making an impact in their respective regions and fields.

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